Manners, they’re so passe
I have always wished that I lived in a time of more sophistication – back in the good old days when people were civilized, cultured, polite, respectable, and decent. I’m not talking about sin and depravity, those things have existed in all ages, down through Biblical times, although they weren’t as celebrated as they are today.
I’m referring here to manners. What ever happened to them? It is very rarely that I encounter anyone these days who was brought up with them. For instance, the last time I was in a movie theater (which is once, maybe twice a year) the guy behind me not only kicked my seat, repeatedly, but snorted his boogery nose, also repeatedly, the entire movie. The people in the back row were talking. The teenagers in the front were talking. The girl in the row and to the left below me was texting off-and-on throughout the movie. It was like a flashlight kept hitting me in the eye. Rude. (And by the way, for the price of a movie nowadays, who texts throughout it? Why bother going? What a waste of money). And annoying. I’ll probably limit my theater going by half. It’s not worth the irritation.
How many times has anyone here been cut off by an incompetent driver, then that ignorant fool flips you off? I’m sure you know what I mean. Or walked behind someone into a store and had to stop the door from hitting you in the face, because the person in front of you didn’t hold it open? Daily occurrences.
Manners go deeper than “please” or “thank you” or a man taking his hat off in a building. (Which no one does anymore). Manners go to making a society civilized. People who are courteous to one another are people who are kind to one another. Every time I go to the store I usually have 5 requests from kids who want to accompany me. Do I want to bring one of my children to a store where they’re smoking in the entrances. Hello, people, you can’t smoke in buildings anymore because it isn’t healthy – so let’s smoke in the doorways, so those of us who don’t smoke and our children, have to walk through your smoke to enter and exit the store. And let’s wait in a line with our children, and have a couple of guys come behind us, and talk like they’re in a Tarantino movie. I mean really, the “F” word should not be an adjective in everyday conversation.
I really, really love it when I meet someone’s child, and they actually can greet me in a complete sentence. Or when my kids’ friends can thank me for something I’ve done for them, such as feed them dinner. Thank yous are usually hard to come by. I’ve been to weddings, given a typical gift, then not received a thank you card. When has society lost it? I’m sure you’ve seen the interviews where some younger person is asked who famous people are, and they can’t pick out George Washington or Albert Einstein? Do you think anyone’s heard of Emily Post?
There is a great article here.
Manners, more than status, wealth, or class are a sign of refinement.